Is it a boy? Is it a girl?
That’s the million dollar question these days around here. And the answer? You’ll find out as soon as I do, sometime in the beginning of April 2015.
Yes, I’m pregnant (almost 24 weeks) and yes, we’re waiting to find out the sex of this little bebe until the birth. When I had first found out I was pregnant and shared the big news with my mom, I had told her that I wanted to wait to find out the sex. She sort of brushed off that little detail of our conversation and it wasn’t until weeks later that she was all like…”WELL? Do you know what you’re having yet?” Yeah, she totally thought I was joking with the whole waiting thing and just couldn’t understand why in the heck I’d want to do that.
So for all of you (my mom included) who think I’m crazy or just can’t understand why I want to wait, I thought I’d collect my reasons and thoughts on the matter and share them with you here.
MY REASONS TO WAIT
- I think we can all agree that pregnancy and giving birth is one of life’s most amazing and precious miracles, right? It’s mind boggling to me how all of this is possible. It’s such a process, from beginning to end, and even though I play a huge role in this process, I sometimes feel like I’m not in control of it, like it’s so much bigger than me and like I’m just along for the ride. It’s all a mystery to me and I feel like it’s not my place to sneak a peek at what’s behind the curtain. I almost feel like it’s not my surprise to ruin. And with technology these days, we live in a world of “NOW”. We’d rather have immediate satisfaction than to hold out for a possible greater satisfaction down the road. When I’m feeling weak in my decision to wait and get that urge to just call up the doctor to spill the beans, I just picture this scenario in my head: my husband is watching the whole birth (like he did with Mia) and I see his face as he discovers with his own eyes what we have made together, and then I hear him announce with a shaky and choked up voice, “It’s a ……!!!!” And then I envision him running into the waiting room to announce the news to the very anxious and eager group of loved ones who can’t wait to find out as much as us. I mean, it’s all priceless. I know it’s a moment that we’ll all never forget and I so look forward it.
- I don’t know if this is true, but it makes sense…I’ve heard that when you don’t know the sex, the labor isn’t as awful because you’re so excited to find out what you’re having that it captures a lot of your focus and keeps you more driven. That could be all bullshit, but I like to believe that there’s some truth in it.
- 9 months is quite a long ride to be on and at times it feels like the slowest one, too. It’s easy to become distracted along the way with lesser important things than the growing life inside of you. With my first born, I had to find out right away what we were having. I mean, how would I know what color clothes to buy? How would I know what theme I was to decorate the nursery? How would I know which items to register for, for my baby shower? How would I decide on a name? There was just too much that depended on knowing the sex. So of course, after finding out that we were having a girl, I spent A LOT of time online searching through Pinterest for nursery decor ideas. I spent a lot of time browsing through clothes and accessories to buy her. I spent a lot of time choosing items for my registry, along with reading hundreds of reviews for all of them. It’s like if I wasn’t at work, I was on the computer. Sure, all of the time was spent with my daughter’s best interest in mind, but I feel like I was focusing on the idea of her, or on future her (after birth) rather than on her, at that moment in time, in my belly. Basically, I was focusing on stuff and things. There was also a whole lot of other things going on at the time that took my attention away (getting engaged, getting married, looking for a place to live with my new husband and moving in together, all before she was born). But because of it all, I look back and feel like I missed out on creating a strong connection or bond with my unborn baby. I was so concerned with everything else that I didn’t take the time to just be, to just sit back and savor the whole process that I was so fortunate to be a part of. THIS TIME AROUND, I hope to have the opposite experience. I want to slow life down, I want to remain cool and calm and collected. I want to focus on every little thump and bump in my belly. I want to actually enjoy (when I’m not nauseous or tired or moody or aching) my pregnancy and take it all in. Because, I don’t know for certain that I’ll have another. I like the idea of having more kids but I’d like to see how we all do with 2 kids before deciding on a third. I want to focus on forming a relationship with my unborn baby before he/she even arrives. I think waiting to find out the sex will help me with those goals.
After saying all of that, I admit that part of me really wants to know. I’d love to be able to refer to my baby by his/her first name. I’d love to be able to tell my 2 1/2 year old that there’s a boy/girl in my belly so that we can call it him/her rather than just “the baby.” I’d love to hear my daughter refer to the baby with his/her first name. But when I put all of my reasons on my hypothetical scale, waiting to find out outweighs, by far, finding out now. I’m a little surprised, honestly, that I’ve managed to wait this long. Even though this was a decision I had made even before becoming pregnant, I’m not always the type to stick to things. I easily cave and it’s really not in my nature to be so patient. But what also helps me stick it out is the fact that we already have all of the essential baby gear saved from Mia. And, newborns pretty much live in simple onesies, wrapped up in receiving blankets anyways. I’ll have plenty of time to order and /or shop around for boy themed clothing and other items. Obviously if it’s a girl, then I’m pretty much set.
I’d like to thank my husband for being such a good sport about this decision. He wasn’t thrilled about it at first, but he’s come around to it and now feels secure in waiting it out.
I’d lastly like to say that my gut tells me that I’m having a boy. Before Mia came along, I had ALWAYS wanted to have a boy first. When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately felt like I was having a girl. I don’t know why, I just did. I wasn’t at all surprised to find out that the baby was in fact, a girl. It could have been a coincidence that I was right, or it could have been my impressive instincts…I guess we’ll just have to wait and see with this one just how impressive I am. I can honesty say that I’m completely okay with either sex. On one hand, I’d love to parent one of each, boy and girl. On the other hand, I’ve never had a sister and know nothing of that kind of relationship. If I have another girl, I’ll get to experience the bond of sisterhood through my children. Whatever is meant to be, will be, and I’m at complete peace with that. The ONLY thing that makes me hope that it is a boy more than a girl is the fact that we have a boy name picked out! I mean, it’s set in stone. A girl’s name is proving to be so much harder to agree on than I thought it would. I’m seriously worried that we won’t come up with one in time. Having a boy would make this name thing so much easier!
So there you have it, a long ass post on why I want to wait to find out the sex of our baby (who’s been moving around constantly since I’ve started writing this). I’d love to hear about when you found out the sex of your baby and/or if you waited….and the reasons behind it. Share!
It’s been a few days shy of TWO MONTHS since I’ve updated this here blog. I know, my eyeballs are bulging out of my face, too. Why such a long leave of absence? Honestly, it wasn’t planned and I don’t have any other reason other than just being pregnant (and all that comes with its 1st trimester glory) and being busy with life. I have to say, I’ve missed this space and sharing thoughts and updates here but at the same time, it’s been so nice to not feel like I have to meet “deadlines” and to not have one more thing that I have to do at the end of the day. Instead, I’ve filled that time with other things. Of course. So, I wasn’t really sure of where to begin, diving back into my blog again. So much has happened since October 9th (last blog post), what do I talk about first?
How about I start with some of those other things that have kept me oh-so-busy. I’ve already announced here that I opened up my own Etsy store. Since then, I’ve been moving and grooving to and from the fabric store and to and from my sewing machine. I’ve been creating items to fill that shop with. I’m also selling these items (along with a few others not listed) at two different holiday boutiques this weekend and the next. So since the holidays are right around the corner, I figured I’d take this opportunity to break the silence here on the blog, wipe away the cobwebs and shamelessly plug my little store.
As you can see below, I’ve got a few items available for the home (toss pillow covers), for baby (burp cloth sets), for mom/grandma/aunt (natural gemstone jewelry which is all handcrafted by my mom) and for toddlers (A-Frame Play Tents). Coming soon: Hair Bow Frames (they’re made, just need to photograph and input into the shop). I’m still working on coming up with items to make for guys and even pets. A little something for everyone on your list. This means you’ll have to visit my shop and “favorite” it, so you will always be updated with my new listings. Like I said, I’ve got lots of projects brewing in this large head of mine. No really, it’s a bit bigger than average which explains why my kid’s head has been in the 90th percentile for head size since birth.
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It feels good to be back, ya’ll. As my belly grows, my blogging will slow but I do hope to pop in at least once a week. There’s much to catch up on (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Portrait a Week Project, photography sessions, death, moving/relocating, my pregnancy, potty training, preschool and more…phew!). I’m so behind! Hope you didn’t forget about me :) I’m still pretty active on Instagram so feel free to follow along over there: @MomistaBeginnings
It’s my husband’s birthday, today. He’s not a fan of his birthday because he thinks he’s getting old. Older, yes. But old? I disagree. In my opinion, he’s in his prime of life but we both agree to disagree on that subject matter. I digress. So I was about to say that just because today isn’t his most favorite day, that doesn’t mean that we can’t do a few nice things for the main man in my and Mia’s life.
With Mia’s help, I made a cute little questionnaire that’s all about Daddy. Mia’s not quite old enough yet to answer all the questions I wanted to ask her but she understood more than I thought she would. Every year on his birthday, I’m going to ask Mia a series of questions about her Daddy and record them. With each new year, she’ll be older and will answer differently. I think it will be so fun to collect years of these questionnaires to look back on all of the cute and silly answers that she came up with and to see how her personality and thought process have changed.
I got a card for him from the dogs and one from myself (which, btw, brought tears to his eyes with the personal message I wrote on the inside. Winning!)
We also went out for a lovely dinner at one of his favorite Mexican restaurants with his sister (thanks, Lisa!).
I had planned on making some chocolate chip cookies but ran out of time and will be making them tomorrow. I know, cookies? Although delicious they’re not the typical birthday treat that one would receive. And it’s nothing like the “Outdoorsman’s Birthday Cake” that I made for him last year (which gets all kinds of Pinterest attention, btw). But whatever, cookies sound good and I’m trying a new recipe…so beggars can’t be choosers. You’ll take what I make and you’ll like it.
I hope you had a decent birthday, Daddy Dom. Sure, you spent a good portion of it working but you also got to come home to a loving family who couldn’t be more proud of you for how far you’ve come and for how far you continue to reach. There’s so much to be thankful for, to look forward to and to look back on fondly. I can’t wait to see where we are in another year from now. We love you, mucho!
My featured product in the shop are my handmade play tents, but I’ve always intended on including other miscellaneous baby/children items. Burp cloth sets are on that list and here’s a look at what I’ve just added today. And I also added a baby minky blanket.
I’ve really been working non-stop on getting this shop together (photographing, pricing, writing descriptions, uploading to Etsy). I think deep down I knew how much time was involved in getting it done and I’ve subconsciously put it on the back-burner for so long to avoid it. But, I’m seriously stoked that I finally just…did it. I’m also looking forward to making connections with new people and to seeing what other creations I come up with to add to my inventory of cute and adorable things.
Before your next baby shower, check out my Etsy shop for my latest sets of coordinating burp cloths. Any new parent wouldn’t be complete without them. Make sure you visit my shop and “favorite” it so that all of my updates and newly added products make it to your feed. My Instagram feed will also include updates.
I’m excited to finally announce the opening of my Etsy shop: Momista & Pop Shop
It’s funny how many different roads open up to you or how many new and different ideas are sparked in your head after having a kid. Before Mia, I didn’t know a thing about kid toys or accessories or style/clothing or nursery decor, etc. I had no reason to be browsing Pinterest or Google for anything remotely related to babies or kids. But once I found out I was pregnant, that’s all I was doing. I love DIY projects and being crafty so I’d Pin so many images of fun little things that I wanted to make for my baby. I’ve had fun trying out a few projects (like this one here, here, here and here). At this early stage of realizing how many cute things there are for kids out there, I didn’t have any desire to sell anything I made.
That changed soon after I came across this particular post from Sydney at The Daybook Blog about 2 years ago (one of my favorite blogs, btw, and the one I’ve been following the longest). She had ordered a “play tent” from Etsy and decorated it herself. I fell in love with it and I just had to have one for Mia. I researched how to make them and with the help of Dominic, we made our very own. I thought the tent was so great that we even made 2 more and gave them away as 1st birthday gifts to daughters of 2 good friends of ours. You can see the first gifted tent we made, HERE. It was then that I wanted to keep making more to sell them on Etsy. That’s the main feature of my shop: A-Frame Play Tents for kids.
I have to give a huge shout out to my mom and Dominic, though. My mom has played a huge part in the production of these. She’s gone to the fabric store dozens of times with me (even one very early morning on “Black Friday” to score some deals) to help pick out fun prints. She also drove me to downtown LA’s garment district to find some deals there, too. That was an adventure. Before I had my own sewing machine (which she gifted to me this last Christmas), I spent many days at her house so I could sew them while she entertained Mia. And she’s even taken Mia on playdates so that I could focus on sewing, uninterrupted. During these “crafting days”, we added another product to sell in the shop: burp cloths. She had been making them for a while (along with quilts) for baby shower gifts for her friends. She showed me how she made them and I began adding that to my inventory. They’re currently not up in my shop yet, but they will be within the next few days. They’ve all been made, I just have to photograph them and create their listings on Etsy. Anyways, I’m telling you, my mom’s been an amazing help to me and has played an intricate role in this whole process.
Dominic has also had an important job. He makes the wood frame! He’s such a guy, he’s got every tool known to man in the garage. It was clear that he was the man to go to for my power tool needs and he was more than willing to get involved. He even went to the hardware store for me to purchase the materials. And it’s because of his involvement that made me want to include him in the name of the shop (hence, the “Pop”).
So there you have it, after over a year of sewing and drilling and sawing and shopping and cutting and photographing…my tents are ready to be sold. You should definitely “favorite” my shop because I still have more tents to photograph and post and like I said before, I have burp cloths to add. And that’s not all. I’ve got other ideas for handmade items that I’ll be adding to the shop once they’re made. I hope to always be filling it with fun little odds and ends (mostly for kids). You’ll want to check back in from time to time so you don’t miss out on anything. Also, I’ll be notifying you via Instagram as well so make sure you’re following me there for updates. In case you ever forget how to get to my shop, there’s an ad/link in my sidebar here on the blog.
I’d LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear your feedback! Take a look at some of my tents that are up in the shop below and some of my behind the scenes shots with Mia checking them out. She loves the tents, btw. She said she wants to tell stories in them. Love her. Anyways, be sure to let me know what you think. And feel free to share this any way you’d like (on the blog, IG, FB, Twitter, etc.) THANKS!
*Note* These tents make a great 1st birthday, 2nd birthday, baby shower and Christmas gift. And Christmas is only a few months away (wink, wink).
“A portrait of my daughter, once a week, every week, in 2014. My goal for the year: highlight her most recently acquired and/or favorite skill, activity, or milestone, in hopes to document her blossoming personality and mind as well as her physical appearance. ” See my series HERE.
Mia: Marches to the beat of her own drum.
Age 2 1/2 is a wonderful age and it’s a trying age. Without a doubt, this kid is by far more pleasant to be around than not. For the most part, she’s sweet, thoughtful, caring, funny, silly, helpful, loving, plus a handful of other very positive adjectives that make me smile throughout the day.
BUT…that little independent and opinionated spirit inside of her has been on the rise, people. The words “No” and “Don’t touch” and “That’s not yours” and “You’re not listening” seem to mean less to her by the day. She listens to me better than she listens to Dad (which frustrates him to no end) but still, we both have to repeat ourselves numerous times. Using the strategy of “I’m going to count to 3! 1…2…3!” is becoming more commonly used around here. Lucky for me, it’s worked every time and I usually don’t even get to “3” before she obeys. Threats to be placed in “time-out” are made every single day, at least once or twice. Yes, I do follow through when necessary and she hates it.
I’m a strong believer in disciplining a child when they misbehave and especially following through with it whenever you’ve stated that it’s about to go down if the kid doesn’t knock it off. I was in Target a few months ago and Mia behaved perfectly in the store we were previously in, but for some reason she only lasted about 10 minutes in Target. She was running from me through the clothing racks, laughing and taking it as a game. I had sternly warned her many times to knock it off and to stay near me or we would leave. After a few “Okay, Mommy’s” followed by the same negative behavior I grabbed her and left. I even had a few items in my cart but I just abandoned it and left. She wasn’t happy. When we got home, I followed up with time-out.
So in this particular photo, I was FINALLY taking pictures of my tent covers for my empty Etsy shop (selling kids A-frame play tents)! My shop has been empty for at least a year and I’ve been putting this project off for too long. I actually was indirectly inspired to get my ass in gear by another blogger/photographer (one of my favorites, too) who just announced her and her husband’s brand new Etsy shop just yesterday. Anyways, Mia was so excited and curious over the tent that I set up in our backyard that she just had to check it out. Understandable. I let her have some time to look it over and hang out inside. But I also made it clear to her to keep her hands off (I didn’t want her to dirty the fabric) and to keep off of the frame. I can’t even tell you how many times I had to tell her to leave the tent alone so that I could take pictures of it and to stop touching the fabric. I swear, when I want a picture of Mia she’s less than cooperative. But now when I wanted her out of the photo, she had to be in every other one. I went through a dozen or so tent cover changes and she was there for all of them, pushing my buttons and testing my patience. I kept my cool for the most part, but man that was a challenge.
Her face in the photo says it all. It’s as if she’s saying “Yup, I’m here doing the exact opposite of what you’re telling me to do. What are you gonna do about it?”
I’m going to grow grey hair, that’s what.
Okay now just for fun, here is the portrait from last year’s week 40 in 2013 when Mia figured out how to climb up into chairs (but demanded help with getting down).