He “bought the cow”…

…even though “the milk’s for free”!  Ha.  You all know how that saying goes.  Well finally, this cow right here is officially off the market.  Moo.

We both knew that this was something that we wanted to do eventually, but we made the decision to do it now so that our little baby would be born to a family at heart and also a family on paper.  We both felt it was the right thing to do for our daughter and for us.  However, it wasn’t an easy decision for me to come to.  I really want to have a wedding, a ceremony that I can share with family and friends and then party the night away afterwards.  I want the pretty pictures that capture each precious moment and  save such a special day into our memories and lives forever.  I want that excitement and anticipation, shared by not only Dominic and I but also by our friends and family, leading up to the big day.  I felt that having a quick and small ceremony NOW at the court house would take all of that away.  Sure, we could still plan for a “wedding” down the road but all I could think of was, “Who is going to really care about coming to a wedding for 2 people who are already married and who have been married for a year.”  I stressed and I cried over the thought of  our special day being anything but special because we’ve already “been there, done that.”  Frankly, I felt robbed and cheated out of something I’ve looked forward to for so long.  I know, I’m sure most of you are thinking, “Well that’s kind of what you get for getting pregnant before you’re married.”  I know that our decisions and actions come with consequences, and unfortunately, in my eyes, this will be one of them for me.  So now, because we DO plan on having a wedding in the summer of 2013 (invites will be sent accordingly), I thought it would be best to not invite anyone to our “civil ceremony.”  This way, it will be new and fresh for ALL of our wedding guests to experience…even our parents.  I didn’t want to make a big deal of it now, so that I can make a big deal of it later.  I’m not sure if keeping this between the 2 of us was the right decision, but it felt like it was at the time.  I hope I don’t regret it.  So here’s the rundown of our recent knot tying…

Dominic was set on getting married in Santa Barbara, CA because it’s a beautiful area that neither of us are familiar with and he wanted a change in scenery.  I tried booking an appointment with the court house for the last weekend in March but they were booked.  I got a call on a Wednesday that we can make the appointment for that Friday.  Did you say I can get married in 2 days?  Ok!  So we both took work off on Friday and we (just the 2 of us and the pups) headed north that morning after enjoying some delicious and freshly baked cinnamon rolls I made from Trader Joe’s.  I had to get the day going with a sweet start.  When we got to SB, we had about an hour and a half to spare so we checked into our fancy room at the Motel 6 off the beach.  We were on a budget and had the canines with us, so the cheapest dog-friendly spot made the most sense.

Our professional pre-ceremony couple photo

 I had time to change and freshen up a little, Dominic took a small nap and then we were off to the court house on Anacapa Street.

Our appointment was at 2pm and by 2:30 we had our license written up and ready for the “ceremony.”

After an elevator ride up to the second floor, there we were, along with our provided witness, Ashley, ready to take the plunge.  No, no…not off the little balcony we stood in front of…the plunge into sweet marital bliss.  Our witness, Ashley, offered to take some pictures of us with my camera which was great.  The ceremony didn’t last long at all, and it went by even quicker in my mind…like a flash.  I barely remember all that was read to us and the vows that I repeated.  I do remember taking some deep breaths, thinking to myself how handsome Dominic looked, holding his hands in mine, and him rubbing my fingers.  We looked into each other’s eyes for most of it, with love in our hearts and silly grins on our faces.  I was nervous, I had butterflies in my stomach (or was that just the baby?), and a small case of the giggles while Dominic tried to shove my wedding ring on my finger while repeating to me his vows.  My poor, swollen sausage fingers made it really tough for him, but he managed to get it on by the end.  There was a moment that I thought for just a second that I might shed a tear, but immediately felt funny at the thought of “crying” in front of these 2 strangers and in a court house…so no tears for me.  We each said “I Do” and sealed the deal with a kiss (sorry, Anoosheh, no tongue).  And just like that, we were husband and wife by 3pm.

A few deep breaths...and it begins

My vows to Dominic...

Dominic's vows for me...

You may kiss the bride...

As soon as we walked out of the court house, we spent almost 5 minutes getting my wedding AND engagement rings off my finger since it was turning bright red.  Ouch.  I’m really looking forward to being able to wear them soon.  Who would have thought that 6  years after meeting at a local bar one drunken night, almost to the day, we’d be getting hitched.  Hey, it happens.

Our first activity as a married couple was a short stroll by the beach with the dogs.

We then had dinner at a Mexican restaurant we found off of Yelp called Los Agaves.  We napped at the motel and then later went out for ice cream at McConnell’s.  We ended the night in a beach parking lot, giving Rancho his first real training lesson.  He knows how to “sit” now.  The next morning, we ate at a dog-friendly restaurant called Beachbreak Cafe.  We sat outside on the patio with the dogs at our feet while I enjoyed French Toast made from Hawaiian bread and Dominic had Corned Beef Hash.  Very good.  Before heading home, we stopped by an REI that had just recently opened up right there by our breakfast spot and we bought the car seat adapter for our B.O.B. stroller.  It’s pricey, but a must if you want the car seat to fit securely in the darn thing.  Finally, one last walk by the beach before driving back home.

Once we returned  home, the rest of the day was spent organizing Mia’s room and all of her gifts with my mom’s help, and then a trip to Target and Babies R Us with my husband.  We bought Mia’s car seat.

It’s been almost a week of married life and it’s been just like any other week.  We’ve been so busy with getting our house together and the baby’s things together that we haven’t really had time to sit and dwell on and soak in the idea of being married and what it all means.  It will come to us in time.  Hey, maybe it’s because we haven’t taken our honeymoon.  You hear that, honey??  THAT’S what we’re missing here ;)  I love you, Dominic…and our new family!

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Comments

  1. From the perspective of a wedding photographer (who has become a little jaded by weddings) your story is so refreshing. :) As much as I love beautiful decorations and big parties to take pictures of, sometimes I wish I could meet more people who don’t care about the fluffy stuff so much. Love this.

    • Oh Courteney, but I DO want all of that fluffy stuff!!! Haha, kidding. Honestly, I do wish I could have been married differently. I wish our parents and siblings were there and I wish I had someone take semi-professional photos. I thought at the time that we would have a wedding the following year but it’s been two and it’s not happening any time soon. Maybe at the 5 year anniversary? Hmmm. Thanks for the comment :)

  2. You know, I read a lot of blogs. I actually just stumbled upon yours. I’ve seen many posts about people getting married and their wedding photos and whatnot, but your photos are just so beautiful to me. Just two people. So raw and honest. So simple. Just love. I honestly got teary eyed reading this post, this is something that has never happened to me while reading a wedding post. I think your tiny wedding was beautiful. Such a beautiful couple you are!

    Ok I’m done now, haha.

    Wishing you all the best,
    Sabrina

    • Thanks so much for sharing! Such kind words. Honestly, it wasn\’t what I had envisioned for us but neither has anything else in my life for the most part, so why should anything stick to \”the plan\” now? Ha. For such a last minute event and with little we had at the time, we made it work best for us and it was definitely special nonetheless. Thanks, again.

  3. Beautiful… and so full of love.. <3 <3 <3

  4. Congratulations to you both Misty and Dom!!! I am SO proud of you and Mia is one of the most fortunate little babies ever!!! Born to a loving set of parents who probably did kiss with tongue Hollywood style but are too shy to admit it on their blog. Hahahhaha love you!

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